This past year was a big one for me personally, since we moved after 11 years in our previous home, and made a major lifestyle change by moving out of downtown for the first time in 23 years.
There’s a lot of identity that gets woven into where you live, especially in the city. Neighbourhoods have their own culture. It can be hard to break free of the habits and prejudices that come with those neighbourhoods; well, at least it was for me. As soon as we moved, though, the anxieties I had about changing where we lived seemed silly.
There is one particular note from the book Goodbye, Things that always sticks with me (paraphrasing):
There are things you love so much that they start to feel like they’re a part of you. They assemble themselves into a persona that you then have to maintain. Parting with those things means you’re freeing yourself from that particular consciousness.
For me, my neighbourhood was a big part of who I was. The effect of moving was like purging your home during a big spring cleaning; I felt lighter; free of expectations about who I was supposed to be. Moving has, thankfully, felt like the mid-life refresh I needed.
My carbon footprint has increased a lot, unfortunately, since we drive more now, and live in a detached dwelling. Until I can afford an electric vehicle, it will be hard to reverse this. We’re in our “harvest years” now, and likely for the next 10 or 20 years, we will be at our most consumptive; I want to enjoy life however I can, until health dictates certain changes in my life. I’m looking forward to more dinners with friends, small road trips to explore our province and country, and embracing my more extroverted side. Ironically, since moving to a “more remote” neighbourhood, we’ve seen more friends and had more social interaction in the past three months than we did in the past three years at our old place. I’m a lot happier here.
There’s a lot I hope to meaningfully re-evaluate about life and work, now that we’ve made this change in location. Life has been one way for the past 15 years or so, but lately it feels like I have been swimming upstream, as the nature of the industry I work in, and the patterns of the world around me, have evolved. I’m hoping that this openness to new perspectives lets me tackle some of those other issues too.